Vivek Agnihotri and Pallavi Joshi have emerged as the newsmaker of the year 2022. The talented duo is currently soaking in the newfound success with the release of ‘The Kashmir Files’. While the world is witnessing the cinematic miracle presented by the duo, people don’t know much about them as a couple.
Vivek Agnihotri and Pallavi Joshi have been married for 25 years and have two children together. In today’s time, when relationships have become fragile, Vivek and Pallavi have stood with each other through thick and thin. In an exclusive interview with senior journalist Bharathi S Pradhan, the couple spilled some beans about their personal life.
Question to Pallavi: What is it about Vivek that you liked?
Answer: It was always that our conversations were so fluid. We used to talk a lot. We used to discuss a lot. And we always had different point of views, but we never fought. And I thought that was incredible because both of us have this ability to make the other person understand his/her point of view. And that kind of started growing. And I felt that I can keep talking to this person for my entire life.
Question to Vivek: What’s about Pallavi that you liked?
Answer: Pallavi is a very rooted person and I have a weakness for rooted people. I connect with such people. And also, Pallavi is courageous. She doesn’t hurt or offend anyone. But she never compromises on her thoughts also. What she believes and experiences, she can express it in a very beautiful manner without hurting or offending. I have not learned that art. She also has a great sense of humour. I can’t live with someone who isn’t rooted and doesn’t have a good sense of humour.
And yes, we talk a lot. But we don’t talk about household chores or kids. We mostly talk about ideas, events, people and things like that. We love to analyze and talk about it.
Question to Pallavi: How was it living with a person who was still trying to find his niche? There must have been moments of frustration!
Answer: I think it is a process of evolving. And we all evolve unless we are stagnated and then that relationship is of no use. It wasn’t difficult or frustrating. I knew he hadn’t really hit the mark but Vivek was never underconfident or tried to please someone. I never saw those elements in him and that made it difficult because people are trying to undermine you. But he was always very confident. And it never appeared that he hadn’t found his ways. Otherwise, maybe, I would have reacted differently. But we were quite happy with everything that was happening. It was only when he went through a few changes, at that point in time, he also started writing. That was the time he was not talking to me too much. I think he was still trying to analyze his own thoughts. But I think, after Buddha In A Traffic Jam, we reconnected because I completely understood what he was trying to do.
Question: You have been married for 25 years now. What have you discovered about each other?
Answer by Pallavi: I have discovered that I don’t think we can’t do without each other. And it’s not romantic. We have become each other’s habit. And we also work together, you know. So, at the workplace we are together, at home we are together. Of course, there are times when he wants to just run away and do something on his own. And when he does that, I also give a sigh of relief that finally, I am alone. But I think, that lasts for only about 24 to 48 hours. After that, we start missing each other. I don’t think we would want to do anything without each other. 25 years is a long time to discover each other. Whatever he or I lack, we have taken it in our stride. We have accepted each other’s flaws.
Answer by Vivek: Discovery, I don’t know. But I have learned that when we say, ‘Don’t take me for granted’, I think it’s a wrong thing to teach children. The best place to be in the world is to be when you can take somebody for granted. I discovered when you give a lot of space to each other and respect each other, then you can take them for granted. So, I take Pallavi for granted and she lets me take her for granted and vice versa. And it is a good thing. Because in this huge world of 7 billion people, you should have at least a few people in your life whom you can take for granted.